This “Lifestyle Change” can be a rollercoaster of emotion at times. In the past I’d let the emotions take me on one heck of a rollercoaster, but lately, I am learning to take more control of the wheel and take a less wild of a ride (MOST times!).
When you are heavy, people constantly judge you and tell you why you should lose weight and how you need to be more mindful of your health or you won’t be around long. Than when you being the weight loss process others tell you, you should just love yourself and be yourself and not worry about what you weigh as you have to live and have fun in life. It’s like you can NEVER WIN!
The last few weeks has been a prime example of this for me. I went from having people say I need to lose weight for my health and how it will help all the pain my body is experiencing, to now people saying I should just love myself and be myself and that I should just “enjoy life” and eat what I want when I want, as well as ‘just cheat’ this one time, it won’t matter.
If you know someone who is losing weight in a HEALTHY way (which I am very cautious of doing – no diets for me anymore, I eat what I LOVE BUT I eat less and try and eat healthy foods more than sugar filled ones – where before it was opposite.), PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE support them. You have NO IDEA the battle they are struggling with EVERY MINUTE (not daily – MINUTE!) to make these changes, you have no idea how much they just want to splurge this “one time” for you to “fit in” with the crowd, only this “one time” leads into a downward spiral of doing it over and over (trust me on WW we DO splurge, But I’ve learned to pick those times I WANT to splurge and when I’ve saved up for them). You have no idea the battle they face watching you eat all those delish items, while they stick to their ‘lifestyle change’ and beat the demons in there head to eat healthier. We aren’t asking you to stop being you and doing what YOU feel is best for YOUR body, we simply ask you respect us and our choices without the constant “come on just have one” (drink or food item).
Rest assured, YES I DO love myself and YES I DO believe I am beautiful inside and out (this took YEARS to get to this point thanks to people around me contstantly teasing me or putting me down about my weight since I was little). I am NOT trying to lose weight for others or to feel beautiful I am FINALLY able to lose weight because I believe I AM BEAUTIFUL and I LOVE MYSELF! I simply am making this lifestyle change because I WANT to be here to see my boys grow up and enjoy memories with them and one day my Grandchildren. I am doing this also because ever since I was in my late 20’s my body has felt like I am in my late 80’s! My body is suffering and I know all too well when I “just let it be and be myself” than I gain an average of 10-20 lbs. per year. I am not ready to reveal my weight to those other than in my WW group YET but trust me, at this rate if I don’t make these changes in 10-20 years I WILL be one of those people you see on TV that need “divine intervention” or they will die as they can’t even get out of bed.
I do NOT agree with losing weight to feel beautiful, as I’ve tried it before and no matter how thin you get, the scale will not determine how you feel about yourself, you need to peel the onion layers away to see why you feel that way. I also do not agree with losing weight for others so they will love you as I tried that too, and if you don’t love yourself, not matter how thin you are, you will never allow anyone to truly love you. I DO AGREE with losing weight because you simply want to BE HEALTHY so you can live the life of your dreams and not depend on medications to get you through another day if you don’t have to. I DO believe in eating to feed your body not to feed your emotions to bury them further (cause trust me I use to do this too – and I’m still not perfect at it). Lifestyle changes are SO MUCH more than just losing weight, it’s about getting mentally and spiritually in balance too so you don’t turn to food to comfort the Soul. It’s about getting your body in balance so you don’t need 20 pills a day to be alive – and at this rate, if I did not listen to my bodies “CRY FOR HELP”, than I would be that person and I do not want to end up that way.
After a few weeks of these struggles mentioned above “eating away at me”, I saw this post on my FB wall (Abraham Hicks quote below) and my Uncle Rudy’s wise words of wisdom that he ALWAYS told me came to my mind (see pic below) – I began to see that how others feel is NOT a reflection of me, and what others think is “none of my business”. No matter what we do in life, someone will not be happy, so you have to just go do what you want to do and what’s BEST FOR YOU!
Another quote that showed up (see black one below first), which also reflects my tattoo on my foot (Caterpillar – Cocoon- Butterfly. “Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she became a butterfly”), and reminded me that I AM doing the best for ME, as if I keep doing what I’ve always done, I’ll always see what I’ve always saw – which is PAIN, DISCOMFORT, and HEALTH ISSUES.
When you are heavy, people constantly judge you and tell you why you should lose weight and how you need to be more mindful of your health or you won’t be around long. Than when you being the weight loss process others tell you, you should just love yourself and be yourself and not worry about what you weigh as you have to live and have fun in life. It’s like you can NEVER WIN!
The last few weeks has been a prime example of this for me. I went from having people say I need to lose weight for my health and how it will help all the pain my body is experiencing, to now people saying I should just love myself and be myself and that I should just “enjoy life” and eat what I want when I want, as well as ‘just cheat’ this one time, it won’t matter.
If you know someone who is losing weight in a HEALTHY way (which I am very cautious of doing – no diets for me anymore, I eat what I LOVE BUT I eat less and try and eat healthy foods more than sugar filled ones – where before it was opposite.), PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE support them. You have NO IDEA the battle they are struggling with EVERY MINUTE (not daily – MINUTE!) to make these changes, you have no idea how much they just want to splurge this “one time” for you to “fit in” with the crowd, only this “one time” leads into a downward spiral of doing it over and over (trust me on WW we DO splurge, But I’ve learned to pick those times I WANT to splurge and when I’ve saved up for them). You have no idea the battle they face watching you eat all those delish items, while they stick to their ‘lifestyle change’ and beat the demons in there head to eat healthier. We aren’t asking you to stop being you and doing what YOU feel is best for YOUR body, we simply ask you respect us and our choices without the constant “come on just have one” (drink or food item).
Rest assured, YES I DO love myself and YES I DO believe I am beautiful inside and out (this took YEARS to get to this point thanks to people around me contstantly teasing me or putting me down about my weight since I was little). I am NOT trying to lose weight for others or to feel beautiful I am FINALLY able to lose weight because I believe I AM BEAUTIFUL and I LOVE MYSELF! I simply am making this lifestyle change because I WANT to be here to see my boys grow up and enjoy memories with them and one day my Grandchildren. I am doing this also because ever since I was in my late 20’s my body has felt like I am in my late 80’s! My body is suffering and I know all too well when I “just let it be and be myself” than I gain an average of 10-20 lbs. per year. I am not ready to reveal my weight to those other than in my WW group YET but trust me, at this rate if I don’t make these changes in 10-20 years I WILL be one of those people you see on TV that need “divine intervention” or they will die as they can’t even get out of bed.
I do NOT agree with losing weight to feel beautiful, as I’ve tried it before and no matter how thin you get, the scale will not determine how you feel about yourself, you need to peel the onion layers away to see why you feel that way. I also do not agree with losing weight for others so they will love you as I tried that too, and if you don’t love yourself, not matter how thin you are, you will never allow anyone to truly love you. I DO AGREE with losing weight because you simply want to BE HEALTHY so you can live the life of your dreams and not depend on medications to get you through another day if you don’t have to. I DO believe in eating to feed your body not to feed your emotions to bury them further (cause trust me I use to do this too – and I’m still not perfect at it). Lifestyle changes are SO MUCH more than just losing weight, it’s about getting mentally and spiritually in balance too so you don’t turn to food to comfort the Soul. It’s about getting your body in balance so you don’t need 20 pills a day to be alive – and at this rate, if I did not listen to my bodies “CRY FOR HELP”, than I would be that person and I do not want to end up that way.
After a few weeks of these struggles mentioned above “eating away at me”, I saw this post on my FB wall (Abraham Hicks quote below) and my Uncle Rudy’s wise words of wisdom that he ALWAYS told me came to my mind (see pic below) – I began to see that how others feel is NOT a reflection of me, and what others think is “none of my business”. No matter what we do in life, someone will not be happy, so you have to just go do what you want to do and what’s BEST FOR YOU!
Another quote that showed up (see black one below first), which also reflects my tattoo on my foot (Caterpillar – Cocoon- Butterfly. “Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she became a butterfly”), and reminded me that I AM doing the best for ME, as if I keep doing what I’ve always done, I’ll always see what I’ve always saw – which is PAIN, DISCOMFORT, and HEALTH ISSUES.