I cannot stress enough how you need to be VERY cautious of your words, as they have the power to make or break someone’s day that is vulnerable and does not have firm healthy boundaries in place. I was reminded of that yet again. I ran into someone who I hadn’t seen in months (maybe even a year), and before I could even get a hello in they looked at me with a look of disgust and said “don’t you think you only need one bag” as they looked at the pile of bags in my shopping cart. I was so blown away, it took my breath away for a minute and then I went right to defending myself by saying I have two teenage boys in the house – which I should NOT have to do. I have been working so hard the last 10 weeks to get healthy and was so super proud of myself, and this person robbed me of this joy and pride (because I let them). Immediately I went back to when I was young and this person would constantly put me down and criticize me for my weight which I now see I held on to as protection and like a security blanket from so many things in my life. Instantly I heard Nate's voice come into my head (my Hypnotherapist) and say “BOUNDARIES” and “AFFIRMATIONS”. I pulled myself back together (where before I would have stayed shattered) and instantly put up a wall of protection between my energy and this persons, and I began saying affirmations loudly in my head as this person chatted to me (You are beautiful, you are strong, you are powerful, you are enough, you are courageous, you are ……..) the anxiety began to leave my body and I felt myself stand taller. My voice was not ready to speak up yet (in a kind way of course), but at least I stood tall. I was able to get through the rest of my shopping by listening to Nate's voice in my head reassuring me of ALL the things I WAS and kept repeating them over and over. I thought I was OK but then on the drive home a HUGE wave of emotion took over me and ALL the things this person said to me over the years came flooding in my body and out my eyes (hard to drive when you are teary eyed!). I was angry, sad, and resentful all at once. I was super angry at first this person robbed me of my beauty all these years and my pride now, but then remembered Nate's wise words of wisdom (can’t remember the exact wording but something like) “People who put others down are obviously not happy with themselves and need to mirror it on others”. I began to affirm that I forgive this person, but now I am seeing that I am super glad I have a LOT more sessions with Nate left as this part I thought would be easy, appears to be a LOT tougher than I thought for some people I try to forgive (and I am a VERY forgiving person). I than remembered how he said that I would be “releasing” junk this weekend and began to wonder if the Universe put this person on my path after months of not seeing them to test me and to help me release the hold/power they had over me so I can take all my power back.
I am FAR from perfect, and I have said LOTS of hurtful things over the years that I have regretted, but the trick is you need to start realizing what you are doing wrong and learn to STOP doing these things and realize how much damage they do to a person’s Soul. I have also spent MANY nights asking for forgiveness at a spiritual level for hurting these people and forgiveness for myself and sending them love and light. The BIGGEST mistake we make is thinking we need to heal others. We need NOT heal others, all we need to do is heal ourselves so the waves of vibration and healing can spread around the world and help others heal themselves as well.
Some would say I am too sensitive and I need to “get over it”, but for someone who’s an Empath and who’s has a heart like her Oma who was a true Angel that walked this earth, it’s not an easy task as you feel FAR more emotions than the average person and it’s amplified 100x. I would not trade this for the world, but some days I just wish it would be a lot less powerful. This is where HEALTHY BOUNDARIES comes in to play. I look forward to learning this via Nate and a course I am taking via a wonderful intuitive friend.
I share this experience NOT to seek empathy from people as I choose NOT to be a victim any more; I do it for two reasons. One to help US all remember to choose our words wisely (and trust me I still have slips) and also as a reminder to check your own boundaries. Even more confirmation to pull my boundaries book out of my pile of “to read” books! It’s time to stop sweeping the hurt and emotions deeper under the carpet and to bring them to the surface to heal and let go (even though it’s hard as hell to do!) as when you can peel the layers and get to the root, you TRULY are FREE!
LIVE – LAUGH- LEARN- GROW- but most of all SPREAD LOVE and LIGHT where ever you go!
I am FAR from perfect, and I have said LOTS of hurtful things over the years that I have regretted, but the trick is you need to start realizing what you are doing wrong and learn to STOP doing these things and realize how much damage they do to a person’s Soul. I have also spent MANY nights asking for forgiveness at a spiritual level for hurting these people and forgiveness for myself and sending them love and light. The BIGGEST mistake we make is thinking we need to heal others. We need NOT heal others, all we need to do is heal ourselves so the waves of vibration and healing can spread around the world and help others heal themselves as well.
Some would say I am too sensitive and I need to “get over it”, but for someone who’s an Empath and who’s has a heart like her Oma who was a true Angel that walked this earth, it’s not an easy task as you feel FAR more emotions than the average person and it’s amplified 100x. I would not trade this for the world, but some days I just wish it would be a lot less powerful. This is where HEALTHY BOUNDARIES comes in to play. I look forward to learning this via Nate and a course I am taking via a wonderful intuitive friend.
I share this experience NOT to seek empathy from people as I choose NOT to be a victim any more; I do it for two reasons. One to help US all remember to choose our words wisely (and trust me I still have slips) and also as a reminder to check your own boundaries. Even more confirmation to pull my boundaries book out of my pile of “to read” books! It’s time to stop sweeping the hurt and emotions deeper under the carpet and to bring them to the surface to heal and let go (even though it’s hard as hell to do!) as when you can peel the layers and get to the root, you TRULY are FREE!
LIVE – LAUGH- LEARN- GROW- but most of all SPREAD LOVE and LIGHT where ever you go!